Following a discussion I had with a new acquaintance last night, I’ve decided to point out the pros and cons of a misanthropic (and often as much apart of it, a cynical) way of life.
First, we’ll look at some of the negative aspects of misanthropy. These negative aspects are easier to live with the longer you are misanthropic. One thing that becomes harder is romantic relationships. Relationships in general are much harder to maintain, but romantic ones especially. This is because relationships require a certain level of trust. As a misanthrope, that level of trust is hard to reach. Most people aren’t going to be willing to deal with your trust issues. Being misanthropic, you’ll be more prone to lose current friends and blow off potential friends. This causes the misanthrope to have a very small support group. Problems also arise when you actually do let a rare few people gain your trust and they break it. This makes it even harder to trust new people that may come along. Needless to say, loneliness is a catch-all for this set of consequences.
While those are some heavy prices to pay, the rewards are equally, if not more, worth it. With the lack of trust for others and an extremely small support group, one is often alone and not influenced by the esteem of one’s peers. This allows the misanthrope a lot of time for introspection and reflection. These are not only great for finding out what you really want and who you really are, but also for gaining wisdom.
Great men are like eagles, and build their nest on some lofty solitude.
There are a lot more benefits to misanthropy. One would be that you’re not taken advantage of quite so easily; another would be that with less people close to you, you’re less likely to get hurt.
It is most often the ones closest to us that hurt us the most dearly.
Sardonicus Amadeus Stanfield